When you can detach, you can look at anything -- any relationship, any belief, any tradition, any data -- and think about it. Suppose you get some feedback that you believe to be unfair, rude, or simply a pack of lies.
If you can detach, not always easy to do when your ego and emotions are involved, you can look at it. You might seek the help of a relatively disinterested party to help you. You might come up with these possibilities:
- I could learn this from the feedback
- Some people are working out their emotions by attacking me
- The person who said that missed the point altogether
- I must communicate more clearly, and stress the same thing more times but in different ways
- I communicated well - I cannot make others learn. That is their responsibility
Without detachment, a person can only agree or disagree, and maybe only get caught up in emotions. With detachment I might discern subtle possibilities, and come closer to truth as it applies in this situation.
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