- "I want to be outside."
- "I want to go shopping."
- "I always meet Margie (or Sam, or Bill or Billie) on Thursdays."
- "I feel fine." (No, I don't.)
- "I can't sleep."
- "I never rest during the day."
So the excuses go. Observed data says that for you (your history) and for others, most humans get better faster, miss less work, miss fewer chances to be outside or go shopping, or meet with friends if we consciously and intentionally get rest. The data-oriented, critically thinking person knows it to be true. But we rationalize to an extreme when sick.
I have friends who are dealing with end-of-life issues (not too far away for me, either). Even though they are not taking their medications properly, remembering to turn the stove off, or knowing where they are all the time when they drive, it's not easy for them topermit themselves to notice. Without noticing the data, they find it hard to think well.
"Yes, I need help."
"It's time to give up driving, or only drive in my restricted neighborhood."
"I should be exploring assisted living possibilities while I can make my own decisions."
"I need to update my will."
"I need to work with my attorney to fill out a Power of Attorney and a Medical Power of Attorney."
"It would help my heir(s) if I prepaid my funeral."
If I am ruled by fear of dying, or fear of giving up power, or fear of not being in my own home, I will not find it easy to think clearly. One method of dealing with this is to do the hard thinking, the tough decision-making, when I am able think clearly. The data will help me. A few clear-thinking friends with good track records of thinking well can help as well. When do you notice yourself making silly moves because you find it darned hard to think clearly?