It's a variation of, "It is what it is," one of the most useful phrases or cliche's of 2014. "You are how you are."
You might wish to be different.
You might want to be taller, shorter, fatter, thinner, less prone to anxiety, more worried about the future, happier, sadder, closer to death, farther from death or . . .
But you are how you are right now. How will you be next year?
It largely depends on lots of things.
Did you expect me to say that it largely depends on you? I won't write that, because I work at honest reflection, and there are lots of factors in how you will be in a year.
You probably won't be taller, but if you are aging you might be shorter. Just the facts, Ma'am.
You might be fatter or you might be thinner. A lot of factors go in to going either way. Exercise and whether you are recovering from something that prevents exercise. Eating habits and whether this is the time to make changes. You think that one through. . .
You might be more prone to anxiety, about the same, or able to relax into life better. Whether you seek counseling from a counselor competent for your needs or not, whether you can afford a counselor or two, how motivated you are right now. . . there are many factors involved in the possibility of change.
I think you get it.
If you are inclined to blame yourself for everything, or blame others for everything, or be comfortable in being locked in to "the way I am", "the way my parents made me" or some other external reason, you won't change much. Not really.
Self-help books and lectures and preachers tend to over-simplify the processes of living. Don't just scoff at them. Think and then think more and after that -- keep thinking. It's worth it.
